It’s very unproductive to sit around waiting for people to guess what you want from them just to then get upset when they don’t guess it.
If you care a lot about your birthday being celebrated, let your friends know that it’s happening a couple weeks in advance and make it clear that you would like to plan something fun with them.
If you want your friends to gush about your latest achievement, make sure to let them all know that you did this or that cool thing.
If someone’s joke is hurting your feelings, you can and should go “hey, could you please not joke about my appearance? It’s a bit hurtful and I’d rather you went at something else.”
If you miss someone, don’t be afraid to reach out and let them know you’d love to catch up with them when they have the time!
If you’re upset about something, try to have a constructive conversation about it instead of holding a grudge in silence.
You will get so much further if you make a serious attempt to exchange hints and grudges with conversation and communication!
That night, no star burned brighter than that of our sweet Anastasia, my youngest granddaughter. She begged me not to return to Paris, so I had a very special gift made for her to make the separation easier for both of us.
America Ferrera as Gloria in Barbie (2023) dir. Greta Gerwig
I’m just so tired watching myself and every single other women tie herself into knots so that people will like us. And if all of that is also true for a doll just representing us, then, I don’t even know.
I love folklore so much because depending on the location and era it comes from it’s either the most terrifying concept or the dumbest thing you’ve ever heard
Mexican Folklore: You think this place is a Normal Location? Tch. You fool. Everyone knows this place is the SCARY Location.
British Folklore: There’s a little Beast in your house… make sure you give it the necessary porridge……. otherwise it might turn to mischief…….
German Folklore: For the love of God, do NOT trust hot people and do NOT trust babies and do NOT trust short men and do NOT trust Christmas and do NOT trust sausage and do NOT trust the elderly and
US Folklore: This Giant Boy From Texas Is God’s Favorite
Listen, you should never film strangers in public without their consent, but I swear there need to be fines or something for people who do that shit in some spaces. For example: I had to go to the ER last night, and some jerk filmed a woman who just came in and was clearly having an asthma attack. She immediately got to go back, and he was unhappy about that. Believe me, I get that it sucks having to wait when you’re in pain, but you don’t get to pick who deserves care when. The medical system in the US is a nightmare, and the ER could be the worst moment of someone’s life. No one deserves to be recorded because some jack ass believes someone doesn’t look like they need care.
This is fine to reblog. People who film strangers should be shamed if nothing else.
I know a lot of EFR instructors (Emergency first response, the people who teach CPR classes) who used to be ambivalent about this and now are firmly in the “fuck you fuck your phone category.
Maybe its demographics, EFR instructors do tend to be older and less online, but there’s been a shift from voyeur filming being seen as irritating and tasteless to actively harmful.
I met one lady who had an entire section of her lecture based on how to divide labor in emergency and one of those steps was crowd control. If you are taking charge of an emergency situation, you delegate tasks. Point at one person and tell them to call 911, Point at another person tell them to warn traffic, Point at another person tell them to get the first aid kit if you know where it is. You assign small tasks to individuals instead of asking a crowd that way the task actually happens, and you’re not sitting around 20 minutes later wondering why the ambulance is taking so long to show up and it turns out that everyone assumed someone else called.
Now there is another step. Pick a big dude and tell him to stop people from filming. Which is actually the tamest version of what she said, because this lady went on and on about how phones are fragile, light, small, pieces of computer equipment that can be easily punted into oblivion.
And yeah, she’s probably the most vocal proponent of property destruction in the face of voyeur filming I’ve heard lately but she’s far from the only person in emergency services who’s frustrated with the eternal quest for viral videos of strangers pain.
And to be clear there is a huge difference between the paramedic who doesn’t want you filming and the cop who doesn’t want you filming.
The paramedic who doesn’t want you filming is trying to protect someone who is hurt and vulnerable and maybe going through the worst day of their life. That is worthy of respect and if you film someone in medical distress you are a pustulent asshole of a human being.
A cop who doesn’t want you filming is probably trying to violate someone’s civil rights and you should absolutely record away.
Also, adding this tidbit: when you are delegating tasks, don’t just point.
Say something descriptive like “you in the red shirt” or “you with the spiky bleached hair” so they really feel that it is them specifically being assigned to the task.
